Why It’s Okay To Fail At Adulting As A Millennial

As the millenial generation, we’re almost set up to fail at adulting. Unlike all the generations before us, we are so unprepared for adult life and everyone knows it. “Proper” adults are quick to point the millennial finger when we don’t know how to apply for council tax or resolve a deposit dispute, but is anyone making an attempt to change that?

At school I learned how to cook a “homely” lasagne, sew a fucking applique, and how to put a condom on banana – But when was I supposed to learn the important things that you need to know as an adult? Like where to register to vote, how to file my tax returns, what the hell a p45 is, or what to do if you’re totally getting fucked over and need to take someone to court. 

I’ve got about 2 months to actually complete my tax returns for last year and just like a uni assignment, I’ll probably put it off and procrastinate until about a week before the due date and then scramble together what I have and hope a little “ta-dah” will fix it. Not because I don’t want or need to complete them, just because I’m so nervous about actually doing it because I have no fucking clue of what I’m doing and I have no one to help me out.

People are convinced that millennials have it good. As millennials, we live in a social media bubble, live at home for longer, can’t complete menial tasks without proper adult supervision, aaaaand we’re the ones who are blamed for it. Soz guys, it’s not our fault that we’re poor, can’t get jobs, can’t afford a home, and we distract ourselves from the embarrassing reality of living a millennial life with KUWTK, Twitter rants, & getting that #squad pic for the ‘gram because we have nothing else to fucking do.


I always felt guilty for having to call my family for help at uni after getting Millennial Anxiety over the slightest things, like what happens if my bank randomly reduces my over draft, or I get billed for something I didn’t use, or even if I’ve stained my fave tee on a wild bender and need mum’s help trying to get the blasted stain out. But it turns out, it’s much harder trying to adult as a millennial than I ever could have imagined.

It’s tough knowing that I have 60K worth of student debt that I’ll probably never end up paying off completely. Knowing that I wont be able to afford to buy a house until I’m 30, after years of squandering my hard earned cash on rent. Oh, and that’s if I manage to get a decent job because these days you need a job to get experience, but you need experience to get a job… which makes the graduate job market is a paradoxical nightmare. But once I have a stable career, a house, perhaps even a family – I’ll finally be doing the “adulting” thing right, huh?

I’ve experienced 5 years of so called “adult” life now and I still feel like I’m falling at every hurdle. But you know what, fuck it, it’s totally okay. If I decide to spend my day binge watching Rick & Morty on Netflix instead of revamping my CV (which I’ll obvz randomly get an urge to do at 2am in the morning) – then that’s okay.

For us millennials, “adulting” is going to be a uphill struggle and if that means that we’re going to distract ourselves from the harsh reality of shitty salaries and a beyond dismal housing situation with the likes of Love Island, Dominos Pizza, & the latest makeup launch courtesy of @trendmood1, then I’m looking forward to the adventure.

How do you feel about “adulting” as a millennial?


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  1. Chichi
    October 9, 2017 / 9:53 AM

    Personally, I wouldn't beat myself up about it. Yes, the baby boomers try to blame us but it's the fault of the baby boomers and that's why we are in this mess.I think that 'adulting' is a socially constructed concept. What does it even mean to be an adult? It's subjective.I do agree – things like paying taxes should be taught in school. I'm self-employed and I recently completed my tax return, and I couldn't help but wonder why we are never taught about taxes or basic accounting 101. It's strange to me.Anyway, I just think it's better to do you and don't worry about what the baby boomers think.Chichichichiwrites.com

  2. Aimee Hyndman
    October 11, 2017 / 12:22 PM

    You just hit the nail on the head, to be honest. The older generation go on about how great us millenials have it, and how rubbish we are at being decent adults, but they have no idea. We actually have it really bad, there are no jobs, the housing market is mostly out of reach for many of us, and we were not taught anything practical at school! The first year of doing my tax return, I was a nervous wreck because I had no idea what I was doing. It would have been beyond useful to have been taught that at school. Great post 🙂 x http://www.aimeeraindropwrites.co.uk x

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