Struggles of an Introvert Online

Why the hell is blogging a struggle for an introverted individual? I work from home so I’m in my apartment mostly all day, everyday writing, photographing, creating. I rarely have to speak to anyone in real life (or even over the phone), and most correspondence is in electronic form over the web. 

I’m my boss, and my employee, my cheerleader, and my worst critic. I don’t have to rely on anyone else directly to be a blogger, and I could probably go a whole week of blogging (by that I personally mean working) without interacting with anyone in real life if I needed to. So why, like most jobs, is blogging an activity where extroverted people thrive?

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I’m a classic introvert, I feel the life drain out of me when I spend time with others and need a lot of me-time to recuperate energy from social activities. Although I love spending time with friends and family, I really enjoy my own company and can keep myself occupied for days without being very social. To extroverts, who liveeee for the social aspects of life, this probably seems a bit strange. Why wouldn’t I want to have a lots of people around me all the time, ey? That’s just not how us introverts are wired.

Just like in real life, I find being social on social media just as challenging. An evening of tweeting has me exhausted, and every personal story I tell on my blog really takes it out of me. There’s currently a lot of pressure to candid tweet thoughts and feelings on the regular, but it’s something I rarely do as I really need to be in the mood/mindset to express those emotions and feelings to the world. I generally just like to keep to myself, and there’s nothing wrong with that. But even doing something really simple like replying to tweets is a bloody exhausting activity from which it take me a long time to regain the loss of energy.

I was discussing this with Alix the other day. But I really don’t personally understand how some bloggers can spend their time tweeting, sending IG stories, updating Snapchat, and vlogging without feeling really drained from it all. That’s just from an introverted stand point, for an extrovert it probably comes really naturally and it’s something I will always envy.

I’m a pretty private introvert which means that I hold my privacy really highly. I enjoy sharing my style, beauty faves, travel experiences, etc with you all but there really just has to be a line drawn for me personally. That comes with just the ability for me to live me life everyday without updating my followers, or tweeting every thing that happens to me on the daily.

I do often worry that as I don’t share as much online as other individuals that I may become irrelevant. Maybe people will start to think I can’t be bothered to tweet about my life to my audience, or they lose touch with my blog because I don’t post chatty Instagram Stories enough. Sometimes I see other bloggers killing it, being #girlboss goals all over Twitter and I’ve tried to do the same and boyyyy does it just take it out of me. I’m an introverted blogger in a world made for the extroverted. As like attracts like, am I completely not hitting a chord with my extroverted audience? 

Last week I tweeted about how hard it is to be an introverted blogger, and couldn’t believe the overwhelming response I received. So… it’s not just me. There are others out there in the same position, who find replying to tweets socially exhausting, and casually “vlogging” your day utterly draining.

Something I’ve been considering is that if we introverted bloggers have a limited voice in the blogosphere, do we have to shout louder to be heard? Less words can have more meaning, and I’m a big fan of not saying anything unless you have something meaningful to say.

So perhaps being an introvert online means that we only say what we truly need to, and spend the rest of the time worrying we’re not saying enough.


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*This is a collaborative post with Tobi, however all thoughts and opinions are my own*


  1. Jessie-Ann Lewis
    January 25, 2018 / 10:26 PM

    You look amazing in this outfit, and I love the boots! I definitely think it can be quite draining to keep updating the world and to share so much when you're a blogger. I don't really share a lot if I'm honest – it's so tough to find that balance. xxJessie | allthingsbeautiful-x

  2. Jenn Molina
    January 25, 2018 / 11:14 PM

    Wow, so this is my first time ever reading your blog or even seeing you online. I found you through twitter and I thought your blog post title was interesting. I am the complete opposite, I am mostly happy when I am around friends and socializing. Which can actually be a distracting thing, I don't focus all my attention on my blog. I've only been blogging for one year but I feel like I could have committed a lot more time if I was a little more introverted. Keep doing what you are doing, because its working! This is Jenn from @Budgetgirlife_blogbudgetgirlife.comI am excited to keep reading your blog!

  3. Lauren Victoria
    January 26, 2018 / 11:11 AM

    I can totally relate to this! I find it so hard to constantly keep up. I also feel like I have to share parts of my life just because I'm a blogger and there's that need to constantly online xxLauren |

  4. Abi Street
    January 26, 2018 / 4:39 PM

    I completely get what you mean, although I do love writing personal blog posts, it is my only real outlet, but recently I've noticed how draining I find social media and have really moved away from all of it Abi | abistreetx

  5. Maggie
    January 27, 2018 / 1:05 AM

    I struggle with this a lot – it's nice to hear that even the well established bloggers who I admire struggle with this too!

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