It’s unrealistic and unattainable.
If you’re making yourself happy, that should be enough to make the people that really do care about you happy too.
I thought I’d word this in a more logical way, but essentially remove the negative people from your life (a bit more hippy if you prefer that kind of thing). We only have a short time on this planet, don’t fill your experiences with people who bring you down or make you feel any less special or important than you really are. These aren’t the people that will push you to make your life something great.
It’s pretty self explanatory but even I have found myself in a bad way, thinking of all the things I wished I did a bit differently. I think that’s only natural. It’s when you step back and realise that you can’t change the past, that you can finally move forward. It’s also worth reminding yourself that no one is defined by their mistakes. I’m going to be a little cringey here and leave you with my absolute favourite (and relevant) movie quote.
C’est l’histoire d’un homme qui tombe d’un immeuble de cinquante étages. Le mec, au fur et à mesure de sa chute se répète sans cesse pour se rassurer : jusqu’ici tout va bien, jusqu’ici tout va bien, jusqu’ici tout va bien.
Mais le plus dur c’est pas la chute, c’est l’atterrissage.Heard about the guy who fell off a skyscraper? On his way down past each floor, he kept saying
to reassure himself: So far so good… so far so good…
How you fall doesn’t matter. It’s how you land!
La Haine (1995)