I’d say that one of the worst things about starting a blog is the bare, exposed truth that comes with it. The truth about how attractive you are, how likeable you are, how (un)talented you are, and how you’re not particularly that special in the world of blogging all come to mind. The truth that emerged about the people that I really did think were my friends was the worst of them all.
Friendships were stripped bare when I realised that only a handful of people that I called my friends actually gave a shit about my new life venture. Surprisingly, more people that I didn’t know that well were more interested in asking me about my new daring journey into the world of blogging than people I once saw everyday.
Now I’m not saying that I demand everyone gives two fucks about what I’m doing 24/7, but showing a little interest in your “bestie’s” new business/life plan would be quite nice. You know, instead of unfollowing them on all social media to reinforce the fact that you really couldn’t give less of a shit. Yep, honestly – Lots of my “besties” literally unfollowed me when I started a blog. I did bring it up with a few of them and they made hella excuses, but in reality it just showed a pure lack of interest in anything I was actively doing to change my life through blogging. In essence, blogging was my dream.
I had a thought to cover this in a post after seeing a few bloggers tweeting about how shit it is when your friends don’t support your endeavours. Whether that might be a blog, an investment, a business plan… simply anything you want to do with your life. I know first hand what it’s like to have people you think are your bestest buds giving absolutely ZERO support when you’re trying to make something of yourself, and it’s fucking shit.
But of course, these gals support Kylie’s new lip kits and religiously buy the new Victoria Secret fragrances – Spending their hard earned bucks on a brand who probably couldn’t give two shits about who the end consumer. But supporting my blog (hi, I’m your friend) with kind words, wasn’t even thought about twice.
When I first started my blog a whole two years ago, a handful of people I thought were my closest friends acted it was something to laugh at – like the thought of me having a beauty/fashion blog was comedic. They used to make really snide comments that were obviously two faced like “well at least you get free shit, right?” and “I might just start a blog to get freebies like you do, it looks easy” and I’d be like…. you what, bitch?
The blogging name that I’ve built up for myself wasn’t easy, it was far from easy. Now that I’m a currently a full time blogger I’m working all day, everyday, on my fucking blog. On my passion, my future, heck I’d even call it my business. I’m lucky enough to be half decent at this blogging thing, and before you ask, yes I do make a tidy income from it. But I worked my absolute bum off, whilst getting a first class masters degree in engineering, to get to where I am currently. There’s still a long way for TKL to go – but I’m so proud of myself.
Two years ago, I was a brand new, baby faced blogger with a lot of learning to do, but I still could have done with a little support from my “besties”. I found out that although many of my friends were hardcore fashion enthusiasts and makeup-lovers, none of them read my blog. Put simply, they didn’t take it seriously and didn’t really care.
Weirdly enough, I’ve had girls who didn’t really know or like me in secondary school @ me on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram etc. letting me know that I’m currently kicking ass. Some message me for help or advice, others just let me know when they enjoy my posts. It’s such a strange feeling when people that really don’t know you at all reach out to let you know that they support you and your blog, but your so-called “besties” wont even follow you on social media.
Not to fret as I do have some friends that have either read my blog, congratulated me on it, or ask how it’s going, and that means the world to me. It didn’t take anything crazy for them to just mention it in conversation or just simply let me know that they “really liked that one” or something of the sort. I hope they know how much it means when they give a gal a complement like that. My blog is both my personal creation, and my career choice. To have even one friend that supports TKL, is worth more than fifty fake “besties”.
What were your experiences with friends when you first started blogging?
Would you ever think differently of a friend for being a blogger/vlogger?