Hey guys n’ gals, how are you this fine weekend? I’m doing well, thank you. Actually, I’m not doing so well – but that’s a mental health story for another day. I’ve actually been pondering the world of blogging over the last few weeks. Not the surface side of blogging aka PSL’s, flatlays, and witty captions – but the darker, tainted side of blogging that is less apparent to the passerby or those new to the industry.

Missguided Pink Multi Stripe Knitted Jumper

Nasty Gal Mind The Wrap Vinyl Skirt*

Missy Empire Maisie Chain Cross Body Bag*

Public Desire Clash Studded Western Ankle Boots*

ASOS High Crown Baker Boy Hat

The blogging world is somewhere that, for the most part, I feel safe. Safe to express myself, create lasting friendships, and develop my creativity. I’ve made some amazing friends through blogging, written some pretty nifty blog posts (I hope), and found my own voice. Everything I’ve gained from blogging is priceless, and it really has been an honour to be part of such a fast-faced, growing industry. I really feel like I’ve come into my own, with a unique way of writing, photo editing, business plan even – and that’s all thanks to blogging. I honestly don’t feel like I would know as much about myself as I do without existing within the blogiverse. 

On the other hand, the amount of drama in the blogging world is through the roof and there isn’t a week that goes by without some dirt getting dragged up, more bot scandals, or simply put – bitching. Whilst the blogging world is a place I call home, it has dark avenues that you can easily get swept down in you’re not careful. I’ve heard of bitching going on within comment pods, whats app groups, blogging friendship groups, or even those with big enough balls to say it all out publicly on Twitter.

One blogger (who I won’t name but was part of an unsightly blogger exposé last month) was getting emotional about people accusing her of something she didn’t do, and not bothering to message her about it privately first, and note – how unfair it was. This was exactly the same blogger who “outed” me to thousands of bloggers on Twitter without ever speaking to me. Yep, she had never spoken to me. Do you smell double standards? Because I do, and the blogging world reeks of it. This blogger hadn’t done that for me, she showed me no courtesy, and when I pointed out that it was wrong and unfair she had a very “well tough” sort of attitude about it. (You can read more about this here)

Is this the way I expect to be treated in the blogging world? Absolutely not. This blogger also didn’t deserve to be treated the way she did – but karma, bitch. I’d never wish something bad upon anyone, but I put it down to the universe bringing that negative energy back round. I’m not religious at all but I do consider myself to be a bit spiritual. I’m a big believer in putting positive energy out into the world, and reaping the rewards when it too brings positivity back to you.

For instance, despite some of the shitty things that have happened to me this year, such as the relapse of my Alopecia (I have a giant ass bald spot on my head near the nape of my neck) and a fair bit of blogging drama that I in no way asked for – I’m up for two blogging awards this year! I don’t expect to win since the competition is so strong, but I’m absolutely honoured to even be recognised within the community for my blogging talents. 

What this bitching comes down to, imo, is a lack of women supporting other women. It’s awful to say, but it seems like stepping on other women in the industry to boost yourself is a growing trend, and people are very quick to “call out” or rip apart another blogger’s work. What happened to that positive community that once existed when I started blogging two years ago? Maybe I was just too naive to see it back then, I’m not sure. But it’s giving me a bit of blogging depression to be completely honest with you.

Blogging depression is something I get with when I see such a congested blogging community attacking itself to one-up each other and gain more followers, or more of a “name” within the industry. I’ve noticed that I even get blogging anxiety when uploading new posts – *like omg what if someone starts slating my latest post* – and sadly, this is becoming increasingly common. To what extent can you actually generally express your opinions without someone coming for you? 

I’m well aware that everyone has tastes and preferences. Even I’m more likely to read something by xxxxxx because they have a charismatic way of writing or catch up on xxxxxx’s latest post because their photos are BOMB. But I always scroll through my Twitter feed and read read read posts by other bloggers whether I know of them or not. Everyone could do with a boost in views, likes, or simply a DM saying “you’re slaying girl” now and again.

There seems to be this attitude that following less than 300 people, not interacting with anyone unless it’s about your content, and only ever reading blog posts by bloggers who are known to be #goals in the industry is the done thing. Honestly, I’m really fed up of it. Being a blogger that’s way too cool to engage in conversation or follow back is so 2016. It’s aspects of blogging like Instagram’s algorithm that have effected everyone in the blogging world, and we should all be helping to create that blogging community to benefit all of our blogging endeavours – Despite whether you have 50K or 300 followers.

I want to encourage bloggers to be the change that this industry needs to mould it back into a community. Simply spreading a little bit of positivity everyday can make the biggest impact. We are all responsible for creating and up-keeping a blogging community that grows, nurtures, and encourages bloggers to keep creating.


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  1. Mel Eaglestone
    September 9, 2017 / 5:51 PM

    I'm glad you've stood up and said something. Sometime we can all be too quick to point the finger in the other direction and say the blogging community itself has gone to shit but WE are the blogging community. Maybe we've gone to shit? Mel

  2. Caledonian Kitty
    September 9, 2017 / 6:52 PM

    Brilliant Post! I try my best to stay away from any negativity I see on the Timeline. I know there's been quite a few issues lately but I don't know the full details. It is true that there are Bloggers out there who have a 'competitive' Streak and if they see someone doing well they try to create drama. I remember what happened to you and it was horrible, luckily a lot of people knew the truth but it's still not a nice thing to happen, you worked hard on your Blog/Social Media Platforms. My advice to anyone out there is just do your own thing and keep positive, don't hate on others. Opportunities will come your way if you keep at it and work hard x

  3. Britney
    September 9, 2017 / 6:59 PM

    I love your outfit! That sweater is adorable. I especially love the colors.I was in the blog scene from 2005 to 2011, and then I took a long break. I just came back and created a new blog three months ago, and I can definitely see how the blogging community has changed. Personally, I haven't experienced this type of drama you speak of. I have noticed what you mentioned though about some bloggers not interacting with their followers and only following other popular bloggers. It kind of feels like a high school clique almost. I get busy, but I always check out and interact with my followers whenever I get the chance.

  4. Ramblingmads
    September 9, 2017 / 7:26 PM

    Yes to all of this Holly. Plus you look totally fab in that outfit.

  5. KateBallamy
    September 9, 2017 / 11:45 PM

    Yesssss! You are so true, everything you've said is spot on. Ps you look incredible, that outfit is giving me all the heart eyes.Kate x

  6. KateBallamy
    September 9, 2017 / 11:45 PM

    Yesssss! You are so true, everything you've said is spot on. Ps you look incredible, that outfit is giving me all the heart eyes.Kate x

  7. Andini Ria
    September 10, 2017 / 7:45 AM

    Totally agree with everything you've said, us bloggers need to support one another! Absolutely love your outfit and these photos too, that jumper is the cutest <3Andini xx | Adventures of an Anglophile 

  8. Lizzie ♥
    September 10, 2017 / 11:37 AM

    SAY IT LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK! I've avoided all blogging drama like the plague because the whole reason I joined the community in the first place is to be surrounded by adults who happened to enjoy the same thing and write about it. I'm just too tired to even be bothered with such dramas, so I tend to switch off from twitter a lot and end up binging on Netflix instead while I wait for it all to calm down later. I'd rather spend my energy on supporting my gals! Lizzie Bee // Hello Lizzie Bee

  9. Unknown
    September 10, 2017 / 1:06 PM

    This outfit looks great on you. Love the hat!I don't have much knowledge on the whole blogging drama, but I do see it sometimes and it annoys me so much, so I just avoid it as much as I can and never get involved. Agree with all you said.ZEKALIN

  10. Pilar Gesino
    September 10, 2017 / 6:02 PM

    I'm so sorry to hear about this. To be honest, i try to stay away from all drama because I always find the blogging community so nice and helpful to each other. I agree, this is just women bringing down women when we should be helping each other to rise up! Its lovely to hear you talk about this.I really love your outfit! That sweater looks so warm!LovePiliTo Read with Tea

  11. Kate Mitchell
    September 10, 2017 / 6:56 PM

    Love this post, I to am sick of the drama and bitching, if you don't like someone unfollow, don't read there's no need for the stuff that's been happening. Great photos by the way you look amazing and I adore that jumper it's now firmly on my wish list

  12. Hannah Morris
    September 10, 2017 / 8:50 PM

    I love this so much! I always try and stay out of the drama, as it's never wroth getting involved, but it does happen so much! I love your photos too, this outfit is gorgeous and you look stunning xxHannah | luxuryblush

  13. Natalie Redman
    September 11, 2017 / 9:27 AM

    Great post! Very true. Love the outfit

  14. Melina
    September 12, 2017 / 3:49 PM

    You have easily become one of my favorite bloggers. Not because of the amount of followers you have (I honestly don't know how many you have!). Nor because of the amazing clothes you wear. You are so genuine. I honestly love every post you make. It's been such a pleasure to have met you through your posts. I am extremely fortunate to have wandered onto one of your posts a few months back on twitter. This post in particular has spoken to me. I don't really get involved with the blogging drama, nor do I honestly see much of it. I am sorry to hear that people treat you a particular way because of the amount of followers you have. You are right. We have to stick together and raise each other up. Everyone can win in the blogging universe. It doesn't have to be a blog eat blog world. Again, great post xxxMelina |

  15. Anonymous
    September 14, 2017 / 9:38 AM

    Oh my that jumper is amazing! It reminds me of something that Lazy Oaf would bring out. :P

  16. Aimee Hyndman
    September 21, 2017 / 9:58 PM

    This post is so accurate. It depresses me that the blogging community seems to have become so bitchy, cliquey, and downright nasty. We should all be supporting each other, not tearing each other down. It's not that hard, is it? x x

  17. The Sunday Mode
    September 22, 2017 / 11:30 AM

    I'm all for supporting other bloggers as well and you know, I think because I haven't as yet made any proper blogging friends that that's sort of shielded me from even seeing drama unfold. I barely ever see anything dramatic happening on my social feeds etc and that's how I like it!Julia // The Sunday Mode

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