Hey guys n’ gals, how are you this fine weekend? I’m doing well, thank you. Actually, I’m not doing so well – but that’s a mental health story for another day. I’ve actually been pondering the world of blogging over the last few weeks. Not the surface side of blogging aka PSL’s, flatlays, and witty captions – but the darker, tainted side of blogging that is less apparent to the passerby or those new to the industry.
The blogging world is somewhere that, for the most part, I feel safe. Safe to express myself, create lasting friendships, and develop my creativity. I’ve made some amazing friends through blogging, written some pretty nifty blog posts (I hope), and found my own voice. Everything I’ve gained from blogging is priceless, and it really has been an honour to be part of such a fast-faced, growing industry. I really feel like I’ve come into my own, with a unique way of writing, photo editing, business plan even – and that’s all thanks to blogging. I honestly don’t feel like I would know as much about myself as I do without existing within the blogiverse.
On the other hand, the amount of drama in the blogging world is through the roof and there isn’t a week that goes by without some dirt getting dragged up, more bot scandals, or simply put – bitching. Whilst the blogging world is a place I call home, it has dark avenues that you can easily get swept down in you’re not careful. I’ve heard of bitching going on within comment pods, whats app groups, blogging friendship groups, or even those with big enough balls to say it all out publicly on Twitter.
One blogger (who I won’t name but was part of an unsightly blogger exposé last month) was getting emotional about people accusing her of something she didn’t do, and not bothering to message her about it privately first, and note – how unfair it was. This was exactly the same blogger who “outed” me to thousands of bloggers on Twitter without ever speaking to me. Yep, she had never spoken to me. Do you smell double standards? Because I do, and the blogging world reeks of it. This blogger hadn’t done that for me, she showed me no courtesy, and when I pointed out that it was wrong and unfair she had a very “well tough” sort of attitude about it. (You can read more about this here)
Is this the way I expect to be treated in the blogging world? Absolutely not. This blogger also didn’t deserve to be treated the way she did – but karma, bitch. I’d never wish something bad upon anyone, but I put it down to the universe bringing that negative energy back round. I’m not religious at all but I do consider myself to be a bit spiritual. I’m a big believer in putting positive energy out into the world, and reaping the rewards when it too brings positivity back to you.
For instance, despite some of the shitty things that have happened to me this year, such as the relapse of my Alopecia (I have a giant ass bald spot on my head near the nape of my neck) and a fair bit of blogging drama that I in no way asked for – I’m up for two blogging awards this year! I don’t expect to win since the competition is so strong, but I’m absolutely honoured to even be recognised within the community for my blogging talents.
What this bitching comes down to, imo, is a lack of women supporting other women. It’s awful to say, but it seems like stepping on other women in the industry to boost yourself is a growing trend, and people are very quick to “call out” or rip apart another blogger’s work. What happened to that positive community that once existed when I started blogging two years ago? Maybe I was just too naive to see it back then, I’m not sure. But it’s giving me a bit of blogging depression to be completely honest with you.
Blogging depression is something I get with when I see such a congested blogging community attacking itself to one-up each other and gain more followers, or more of a “name” within the industry. I’ve noticed that I even get blogging anxiety when uploading new posts – *like omg what if someone starts slating my latest post* – and sadly, this is becoming increasingly common. To what extent can you actually generally express your opinions without someone coming for you?
I’m well aware that everyone has tastes and preferences. Even I’m more likely to read something by xxxxxx because they have a charismatic way of writing or catch up on xxxxxx’s latest post because their photos are BOMB. But I always scroll through my Twitter feed and read read read posts by other bloggers whether I know of them or not. Everyone could do with a boost in views, likes, or simply a DM saying “you’re slaying girl” now and again.
There seems to be this attitude that following less than 300 people, not interacting with anyone unless it’s about your content, and only ever reading blog posts by bloggers who are known to be #goals in the industry is the done thing. Honestly, I’m really fed up of it. Being a blogger that’s way too cool to engage in conversation or follow back is so 2016. It’s aspects of blogging like Instagram’s algorithm that have effected everyone in the blogging world, and we should all be helping to create that blogging community to benefit all of our blogging endeavours – Despite whether you have 50K or 300 followers.
I want to encourage bloggers to be the change that this industry needs to mould it back into a community. Simply spreading a little bit of positivity everyday can make the biggest impact. We are all responsible for creating and up-keeping a blogging community that grows, nurtures, and encourages bloggers to keep creating.
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*I was gifted products in this post, however all thoughts and opinions are my own*
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