Am I Losing My Blogging Mojo?

This ^^^ is a thought that passes through my mind everyday now. With every Instagram post, that’s engagement the algorithm has me fighting even harder for. With every clothing purchase, because fuck it doesn’t matter if I like it, but are my followers going to dig it? Even with every blog post I write. If I’m completely into the topic and think it’s great content imo, what’s the point if nobody reads it? I’m feeling the pressure of the blogging community mounting and tbh I don’t think I can hack it anymore. 

There have been a handful of challenging moments this month that have has me seriously considering shutting down my blog as a business altogether, getting a “proper 9-5 job”, and going back to blogging for the fun of it – Because honestly, blogging changes when you go full time and people don’t really talk about the harshness of it all. Blogging has me constantly questioning my abilities in this line of work. From my photography skills, to how much I fucking tweet, to the point at which I begin to question if I can even write anything half decent.

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Let me get it straight though, guys. I’m not slating the blogging industry or community has a whole, I just think it’s the line of work we’ve all decided to be in as bloggers. It’s a line of work that has you comparing everything and more to find out where you stack up amongst a sea of other bloggers who are doing pretty-much-but-not-quite everything that you do.

It’s so easy to go from account to account and compare following, engagement, photography, editing, captions, hashtags, and the list goes on. I’m guilty of it and I’m pretty sure everyone in the blogging industry has done this at least once before. It’s natural to check out competition and better yourself, but when you become fixated on getting to xxx followers just because someone else is, or spending all the hours in the day trying to hit xxx likes because that’s what another blogger gets, being an influencer becomes extremely stressful.

I’m not sure as to why but from the end of 2017 to present, I’ve felt more pressure than ever to perform on my social channels and write some killer shit on my blog – So much so, that it actually gives me anxiety. If you’ve experienced anxiety or a panic attack before ~ you know that gripping tight feeling in your chest ~ yeah, I get that every time I post on Instagram. I feel like I need to constantly prove that I’m a fab influencer on social media on the daily, and personally, I never feel like I quite get there.

I’ve begun to question every decision I’m making – Am I really losing my blogging mojo or is it all in my head?

I’ve had so so so many many kind comments about my photography glow-up since I got my Olympus PEN, and I appreciate it every time someone comments or DM’s me letting my know that I’m “slaying it”. But it doesn’t stop me from second guessing every image, and every caption, and every edit. The blogging community is all about getting that engagement right now, and hitting the “Explore” page is top of every bloggers list. So what happens if you’re slaying the game, but the likes just aren’t coming in. What if it’s not the algorithm, what if it’s me?

Oh yeah, I truly know that it’s completely unnecessary to focus on such trivial things, and I’d much rather be in the moment spending time with my partner and family the moment I clock off at the end of a long weekday. However, it’s very difficult to ignore when blogging isn’t a clocking in/clocking out sort of job.

Sharing home truths here, but I had a complete breakdown on our trip to Stockholm. I just lost it, burst into fits of tears and was an inconsolable mess. Al was a right trooper and provided me with many cuddles and chocolates until I could verbalise how I was feeling, and it just came out of me – I don’t even know what I want anymore.

I explained that it was my birthday and a few other bloggers had just done really extravagant birthday posts – with parties, cakes, presents, the whole sha-bang. Pressure. What the fuck was I supposed to post? I’m in Stockholm so I’ve got to make it good right, something really “IT’S MY FUCKING BIRTHDAY SO LIKE THIS POST”, right? I admitted to him that if it wasn’t for that pressure, I wouldn’t post at all – I’d have a quiet, introverted birthday doing things I love with the person I love and it’s no one’s bloomin’ business on the gram. 

Going forward, I think I need some time out to really think about who I want to be on the internet. I know it sounds like a blogger cliche, but it’s the truth. I just don’t know if I want to be that Instagram Goals girl with a perfect body, or the Travel Qweeeen showing the world how amazing life can be, or the Fashionista with the Gucci belt n’ bag that make all the bloggers swoon. I feel like I need to re-learn how to be truly me.

The alternative gal who enjoys comfort over aesthetic, puts great emphasis on education, science, literature, and loves (beyond anything) our animal companions. 

As a promise to myself, this year I’m going on voyage to find out who I really want to be as a blogger, influencer, role model, as a 24 y/o woman on the internet – and fucking own the shit out of it.


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  1. Mae Polzine
    January 27, 2018 / 4:41 PM

    I know how you feel, been feeling the same as well on my blog. I look at it and just question if I've been losing it. So I started switching things up and avoiding the stats since I find that kills my motivation to blog faster than anything especially if I start comparing it to others.

  2. Lauren Mellor
    January 27, 2018 / 7:06 PM

    I found this so relatable! I'm such a small blogger, but it's so easy to second guess everything and compare myself to every other blogger. Sometimes I feel blogging's lost what it once was. But I love your content, and honestly think you're one of the best bloggers out there. I know you'll find your groove again and I can't wait to see what you do in the future!

  3. Holly Collins
    January 28, 2018 / 6:06 PM

    Gal you kill it all the time, I’m so sorry it’s making you feel like crap (and hey we all know anxiety doesn’t need a reason to kick off!) but I bloody love your blog, your photos are amazing, and you deserve time off when you’re feeling poop. Sending you lots of love and I hope you feel better soon x

  4. Littlepinkduckblog
    January 28, 2018 / 6:33 PM

    I agree I am a relatively new blogger and I feel there is a lot of pressure to try and showcase an interesting life, when sometimes you just want to enjoy a day/night out with your friends. It’s also difficult to keep motivated to write when you feel like no one is reading what you post. I hope you are able to find a blogging voice you are happy with <3 Jess xx

  5. Charlotte
    January 29, 2018 / 2:28 PM

    You're stunning – I love the photography on your blog! I hate to think you're losing your mojo because I really admire you as a blogger and hope to be half as good as you one day :)

  6. Sophie Ford
    January 29, 2018 / 8:57 PM

    I reallllllly connected with this, it's so hard not to blame yourself when really you're trying to fit into someone else's ideality! I frickin love your blog and am almost glad to see I'm not the only one feeling like this sometimes, but girl you're killing it, keep doing what you're doing 'cause you're bloomin good at it!

  7. Rosie Urry
    January 29, 2018 / 9:03 PM

    I'm relatively new to the world of blogging and even I can relate to this, which says it all really! So I can only imagine to immense pressure when it is your job. Honestly you are slaying girl, these photos are everything anf you look insane!Rosie |

  8. Lea H
    January 31, 2018 / 11:33 PM

    This sounds so interesting! I am excited to see what you find out about yourself and how it will transform to your blog etc. and I totally get you, I think everyone goes once or more through this where you have lost yourself or what your blog was about. Btw I love your content!Lea, xx

  9. Christina Jane
    February 7, 2018 / 10:21 AM

    Hey girl, sorry to hear that you are feeling this way! I personally find your blog really inspiring, I love your photos and I think you have a great style of writing! I also struggle with anxiety and I know that when it rears its ugly head it is hard to listen to logic but I think it would be a shame for you to stop blogging, but do what is right for you x

  10. Abbwhi
    February 7, 2018 / 7:35 PM

    I can completely understand how you feel. I think we all go through feelings like this especially when social media platforms are doing all they can to prevent us from succeeding *cough* instagram algorithm! but you are doing so so well and you can keep on pushing! Abbie X /

  11. Jessy Tee
    February 11, 2018 / 12:45 PM

    Of all the bloggers out there , I have to say you are one of my favs because you're so raw and unedited. You don't filter how or what you feel and that's honestly amazing! I think everyone needs a break every now and then and I feel bigger Bloggers should be more open to the pressures of being a bloggger because they once felt it too.Great post 💕💚

  12. Hannah
    March 25, 2018 / 7:22 PM

    Oh RELATE. Hun, I think this is awesome. You've nailed it down to a T. I want all bloggers to read this and make a change to their blogs because they are all so damn similar.Can't wait to see what you do next xHannah Silvey

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