1. It’s like moving in with your best friend. From how you’re going to decorate your home, to what Netflix series you’re going to watch non-stop for the next few weeks – it’s such a fun experience.
2. It’s like one giant sleepover that doesn’t end. It’s absolute pleasure to fall asleep with my partner and wake up to him, every single day. Some people think that’s too intense, or couldn’t imagine being with someone constantly – but it’s all about what works for you.
3. You will argue. It’s inevitable, and it’s healthy. My partner and I have seriously fiery arguments sometimes, but they lead to more understanding of each other’s feelings and more appreciation for eachother, which is always good. Also because you live together, you can’t simply just walk away and avoid the situation. You have to confront problems straight on, which means negative feelings don’t build up over time.
4. Your partner’s way of life may be different to yours. They might do stupid things like mix colours in the laundry, or not use a coaster under their drinks – ummm, no. So communication is really important – even just a little nudge in the right direction can help your partner understand your preferences. And you never know, they might come at you with a few things that they might not be a fan of…
5. Compromise is key. It’s all about teamwork, and finding out what works (and what doesn’t work) for both of you in the relationship. Neither person’s opinion is more important, so it takes a lot of communication, and patience, to make things work.
6. Prepare to see sides of your partner that you yet witnessed before. When you live together, there’s no escaping each other for a few days of “space” or “me time” if you’re super grouchy or hormonal. However you do have to work through it together, which really does strengthen your relationship bonds.
7. Expect friends/family to have differing opinions on the subject. When my partner and I first moved in together, a lot of our friends asked how we could possibly spend almost 24 hours a day together and not completely lose it. Others exclaimed that they could never live with their partner at this age. Remember, it’s all about what you want and it’s your choice.
8. Think about the finance. By living together you do agree to split rent, council tax, bills, and even little things like food shops. Some people like to set up joint accounts, however we have our own accounts and take different responsibilities (ie I do gas/electricity and my boyfriend does internet/rent) and we send each other the appropriate amounts. It is very easy to argue over money, but you just have to remember why you’re living together and remember that money is just a means to pay for that.
9. Remember to laugh. Things change, and sometimes life gets hella stressful – especially if you both study or work full time. Just make sure to enjoy the little things, like simply enjoying eachother’s company. It’s great to switch off all your screens and actually interact with each other.
10. Do what makes you happy! It’s all about what makes you feel comfortable. Maybe you need a bit more time, maybe you can’t wait to live with each other. There’s no rush. The important thing is to enjoy, and appreciate, each other!