Sunday, 17 April 2016

10 Things You Need To Know Before Moving In With Your Partner




1. It's like moving in with your best friend. From how you're going to decorate your home, to what Netflix series you're going to watch non-stop for the next few weeks - it's such a fun experience. 

2. It's like one giant sleepover that doesn't end. It's absolute pleasure to fall asleep with my partner and wake up to him, every single day. Some people think that's too intense, or couldn't imagine being with someone constantly - but it's all about what works for you.

3. You will argue. It's inevitable, and it's healthy. My partner and I have seriously fiery arguments sometimes, but they lead to more understanding of each other's feelings and more appreciation for eachother, which is always good. Also because you live together, you can't simply just walk away and avoid the situation. You have to confront problems straight on, which means negative feelings don't build up over time.

4. Your partner's way of life may be different to yours. They might do stupid things like mix colours in the laundry, or not use a coaster under their drinks - ummm, no. So communication is really important - even just a little nudge in the right direction can help your partner understand your preferences. And you never know, they might come at you with a few things that they might not be a fan of...

5. Compromise is key. It's all about teamwork, and finding out what works (and what doesn't work) for both of you in the relationship. Neither person's opinion is more important, so it takes a lot of communication, and patience, to make things work.

6. Prepare to see sides of your partner that you yet witnessed before. When you live together, there's no escaping each other for a few days of "space" or "me time" if you're super grouchy or hormonal. However you do have to work through it together, which really does strengthen your relationship bonds.

7. Expect friends/family to have differing opinions on the subject. When my partner and I first moved in together, a lot of our friends asked how we could possibly spend almost 24 hours a day together and not completely lose it. Others exclaimed that they could never live with their partner at this age. Remember, it's all about what you want and it's your choice.

8. Think about the finance. By living together you do agree to split rent, council tax, bills, and even little things like food shops. Some people like to set up joint accounts, however we have our own accounts and take different responsibilities (ie I do gas/electricity and my boyfriend does internet/rent) and we send each other the appropriate amounts. It is very easy to argue over money, but you just have to remember why you're living together and remember that money is just a means to pay for that.

9.  Remember to laugh. Things change, and sometimes life gets hella stressful - especially if you both study or work full time. Just make sure to enjoy the little things, like simply enjoying eachother's company. It's great to switch off all your screens and actually interact with each other.

10. Do what makes you happy! It's all about what makes you feel comfortable. Maybe you need a bit more time, maybe you can't wait to live with each other. There's no rush. The important thing is to enjoy, and appreciate, each other!



What do you look forward to / already love about living with a partner?
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15 comments

  1. Me and my boyfriend have been living together since our second year of uni. Living together with other people in the house was definitely a nice transition phase to go through and in a couple of months we;'ll be all on our own. I love it though! I hate waking up in the morning on my own and I find that even if we spend a few days apart I find myself wanting to turn to him to make a funny comment or ask his advice

    Steph - www.nourishmeblog.co.uk

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  2. This was such a cute read. I don't live with my boyfriend, we each live out separately with our friends but spend a good 5 nights a week together which will probably even go up next year. It really is a great feeling to wake up and fall asleep next to someone you love! I'm not sure when we'll take the plunge to actually live together but I don't think it'll be for a while especially due to my very traditional family ahah. But I'm good living with friends for the next few years :)

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  3. So cute and so true! Me and my boyfriend are planning to move in at the end of the year and it's exciting and scary! eek xx

    www.shayholly.co.uk

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  4. Moving in with my boyfriend was the best thing I have ever done. We actually dont fight a lot - apart from the times were he leaves his socks on the floor and things like that. But it has been such a great experience x

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  5. Great post and so many people should really read this. They kind of think magical things will happen and there won't be an adjusting period or arguments won't happen and that is just not a reality.

    S .x http://ramblingsofayoungprgirl.blogspot.com

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  6. So cute! No matter how similar you are in the way you grew up or how similar your core values are you will argue but it will change your relationship for the better if you're meant to be!

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  7. I completely agree, my boyfriend moved in with me after about 6 months - we couldn't take the inconsistency of living apart and I can relate to every point made. It is difficult, you will argue and other people will develop opinions but as long as you're both happy and secure - it shouldn't matter. All these points are simply hurdles to overcome...together.
    Quirks & Queries

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  8. This post is so perfect. Myself & my partner have been together for 3 & a half years as he's been at uni & we're looking for a place together this summer. I think it will be a massive change for us as we are used to being apart & long-distance but I'm so excited for our life together :) xx

    www.hello-cat.blogspot.com

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  9. I've been living with my boyfriend for just over a year now and I love it - your post hits the nail on the head about living together!

    It's also made me realise that I'm a massive nag too though. I give lots and lots of 'nudges' to him!

    I did a similar post about a year in our house here - http://www.numbertwentysix.co.uk/2016/01/one-year-of-being-grown-up.html

    Kirsty xo.

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  10. Sadly I don't live with my partner as we still need the finances to do so but the moving in together conversations are happening. I believe in your compromising point, he doesn't like to clean and I can't stand mess so it will be a work in progress.

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    emma.

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  11. I thoroughly enjoyed reading this post - positive, yet real. I'm sure it's thrilling yet difficult to move in with your partner no matter how well you may get along and how similar you are, you will are essentially unique individuals who will differ in one way or another, so disagreements are bound to happen. I can't wait for my day to come! :)

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  12. I loved this and found it really helpful to read through! Tania xx taniamichele.blogspot.co.uk

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  13. I definitely agree with number 9! It's so easy to get too comfortable living with you partner that you completely ignore them when you get home after work. I think it's definitely beneficial for couples whom live together to go out oce a week on a 'date' night so they're spending QUALITY time as well as just lounging around in your joggers all day grunting at each other.
    Arora | www.aappleby.blogspot.co.uk

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  14. I love that you've put remember to laugh in! It's true how much laughter has an impact and makes you happier!

    Jodie @ Jodetopia x

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  15. Totally agree with all these points - and I've been living with my OH for 5 years plus now! Compromise really is key! x www.aimeeraindropwrites.co.uk x

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